This article was produced in collaboration with Court Watch, an independent outlet that unearths overlooked court records.
Chicago man Nikko D’Ambrosio is suing 27 women, one man, 20 different parts of the Facebook corporation, Meta, Patreon, GoFundMe, and the website arewedatingthesame.com, claiming that they’re responsible for damages incurred when women posted online about alleged negative experiences they had on dates with him in an “Are We Dating the Same Guy” Facebook group.
There are hundreds of “Are We Dating the Same Guy” groups on Facebook for major cities around the world, and a standalone website that acts as a searchable database for finding or adding entries about dates with men and women. In the Facebook groups—the first of which started in 2022 in New York City—people post someone’s name or image and “any tea or red flags?” and others can respond with their experiences with that person.
In D’Ambrosio’s case, according to his complaint, women used the Chicago “Are We Dating the Same Guy” Facebook group to say he’s “clingy” and “ghosted” them after sleeping with them. “He’s been posted here before. The poster said he sent her a slew of texts calling her names because she didn’t want to spend the night with him,” one commenter said of him, according to screenshots from the group included as exhibits in the complaint. Another commenter called him a “psycho.”